I am a homosexual man in my own very early 20s and, as long as i will bear in mind, my preferences have differed from standard. I’ve a fetish for larger men and I’ve also planned to gain weight myself personally to meet this. We realise the stigma around obesity and its health effects, and my have a problem with this has directed us to conceal myself out. We fear that others might find myself as a disgusting nut.

Don’t let the zeitgeist spoil your own enjoyment. You’re lucky you do not need a «ripped» partner to be remembered as aroused, because this kind of a circumstance there can be a lot of force on both the seeker as well as the object of desire.

Body-worship is very common. It happens in lots of forms, with a lot of social variation, and it is normally the outcome of preferences and triggers that commence to form quite typically in youth. Despite the recent trend for preferring well-toned males, there are plenty of fleshier men around who love to know that you desired all of them.

The self-description as a «disgusting freak» is actually way-off, and shows that it might be worth exploring your very own relationship with weight and body image. Play the role of accepting of your own normative interest, and get away from objectifying people you want really. All of you has a unique concept for arousal and intimate connection, and yours is actually far from «freakish». Kindly yourself, and get proud.

Pamela Stephenson Connolly is actually a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual problems.